DNMS Ego State Therapy

What is Ego State Therapy?

Ego state therapy is working with the childhood/young adult parts of us that have attachment wounds. These attachment wounds refer to developmental needs that didn’t get met by our caregivers in our upbringing. We have many developmental needs, including attunement, validation of our reality, emotional stability, safety and being heard. When our caregivers don’t meet these needs for us, we are left with a wound. In Ego State Therapy we address these unmet needs by talking with the wounded parts and healing them with the “internal resource,” or the best part of ourselves.

Why use Ego State Therapy?

I use Ego State Therapy to help the client heal the wounded neural network part of self that got stuck (as a child or young adult). In our sessions, we acknowledge that a need did not get met and we meet that need today.

What should I expect from a session?

I spend our first session or two asking questions to better understand what it was like for you growing up in your family system. I then help you establish a goal and an internal resource (the person you hope to always be). As a therapist, I listen for the unmet attachment wound(s) and use the established internal resource - “your best self” - to go back and heal and talk to that wounded neural network.

Who would benefit from this type of therapy?

This type of therapy is especially healing for people who have had childhood attachment wounds - specifically safety and emotional needs that weren’t met.

How long does each session last?

While standard sessions are often 50 minutes, I also offer three hour intensive sessions. The latter allows for a more fluid therapy process, which means progress is achieved more rapidly. The amount of time required to complete a goal varies from person to person.

What could I expect the outcome to be?

You will be able to identify when a part is “triggered,” and instead of reacting negatively, you can meet this part’s need in the moment and stay present with your best self.