Infidelity · Marriage
Getting Past the Affair
by Donald H. Baucom, Douglas K. Snyder, Kristina Coop Gordon
What this book is about
Getting Past the Affair offers a structured path through the destabilizing period after infidelity. It addresses immediate emotional reactions, decisions about disclosure and boundaries, efforts to understand what happened, and the question of whether and how to rebuild. Exercises and talking points give couples a way to approach difficult conversations with more organization and less pressure to resolve everything at once. The book does not guarantee reconciliation, and readers dealing with danger, coercion, or severe instability should prioritize safety and professional guidance.
About the author
Douglas K. Snyder, Donald H. Baucom, and Kristina Coop Gordon are clinical psychologists, researchers, and authors. Their professional work includes couples therapy, relationship distress, and recovery following infidelity. They bring a structured, clinical perspective to the emotional and practical decisions that follow an affair. The collaboration is designed to make research-informed relationship work understandable and usable outside the therapy office.
Kristin says
This is a step-by-step guide for getting through an affair, with homework and talking points. I appreciate that it encourages some recovery before making a decision about whether to stay in the marriage. It is in-depth and very useful.
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