Emotions · Parenting
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
by Joan DeClaire, John Gottman
What this book is about
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child introduces emotion coaching as a way to support children through strong feelings. The process includes noticing emotion, treating it as an opportunity for connection, listening with empathy, helping the child name the feeling, and setting limits while problem-solving. Examples help caregivers distinguish accepting an emotion from approving every behavior that follows it. The framework can complement, but does not replace, individualized support when a child has significant developmental, behavioral, or mental-health needs.
About the author
John Gottman is a psychologist and relationship researcher whose work includes emotion, families, and close relationships. Joan DeClaire is a writer and editor who has collaborated on books translating his work for general audiences. Together they present emotion coaching in a step-by-step format for parents and caregivers. Their collaboration combines research-informed concepts with examples of everyday conversations and limit-setting.
Kristin says
This book is very helpful in teaching parents how to be an emotional coach. It breaks down how to name the feeling, connect with the child, set limits, and problem-solve the situation.
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