Communication · Marriage
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
What this book is about
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work translates John Gottman’s observational research with couples into practical ideas and exercises. Topics include strengthening friendship, responding to bids for connection, handling solvable and ongoing conflict, accepting influence, and creating shared meaning. The book helps readers notice small interaction patterns that can either protect a relationship or contribute to distance over time. It offers useful structure, while couples facing violence, coercion, active addiction, or acute crisis may need individualized professional support rather than workbook exercises alone.
About the author
John Gottman is a psychologist and relationship researcher known for decades of observational work with couples. His research has examined interaction patterns, friendship, conflict, repair, and relationship stability. Nan Silver is an author and editor who helped translate that research into an accessible book for couples. Their collaboration connects research-informed concepts with exercises readers can try in daily life.
Kristin says
This is a comprehensive but very practical guide to a successful marriage. Gottman shares what he learned from observing couples and studying predictors of divorce. It is truly a must-read for every relationship.
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